I’m sorry to say, but there are so many girls out there who doesn’t know how valuable they are, that they are meant to be fought for, they have this longing to be loved and taken care off by us men. And there are so many boys out there too, who have forgot what it means or how to treat a girl properly, we stick to seduction and false promises we never keep and when responsibilities arrive and the fun’s gone we run away with our tale between our legs. There’s no faithfullness to the girl we’ve chosen to be with. Sadly, we’ve seem to have forgotten all about how to treat a girl, and girls, how to be a little hard to get. Faithfullness, honesty, honor, commitment.. what happened to these virtues? All of a sudden it’s a trend to cheat on your girlfriend or boyfriend, it’s a trend to break up or divorce when your feelings drift back and forth. Really, you would base your entire realationship on feelings? Well, good luck Chuck, because that relationship is doomed to fail. You didn’t give it a second thought, did you? Feelings will come and go, but are you really going to be controlled by them when you didn’t get to much sleep last night and you’re just angry with everybody because of that, and therefore, by your own account, break up with your girlfriend for no other apparent reason than: “I’ve lost my feelings for you?” Wow, I’m just blown away by your chain of thought, I bow to the master.
Can you stop and think for a moment? What is it really that is holding your relationship together? If it is just feelings or sex, just “using” the other so that you can feel good about yourself and have a good time, then you’re in it for the wrong reasons. People dream of lifelong and steady relationship, but they never consider that it takes a lot of effort to keep it going for that long. Count the cost. Are you willing to stick together even when times get tough? For better or worse? That ought to sound familiar, doesn’t it? It’s taken from an event called marriage. It’s between a man and a woman, making a commitment to each other to love and serve each other in good times and in bad for the rest of their lives, in case you didn’t know what it was.. Is it just me or isn’t that statement clear as day? I mean what part does people not understand? Because what I see these days are people divorcing, because their marriage isn’t going as well as in the beginning. If you want a perfect marriage, marry a robot. It does everything you want, it loves you, but you know it’s only because you want it to do so, not by itself. Prostitutes also do that, feeding your need for love and acceptance, but it will always be a substitute. It’s NOT the real deal.
One of the reasons that is so common nowadays, is that people are afraid of commitment. They hate to bind themselves to something, because they really just want to lay down on the couch and do nothing, just being loved without having to do something back. Commitment requires some sacrifice on your behalf too. You gotta do something you might not feel like doing at the time, to honor the commitment you’ve made. We’re so scared of commitment that we won’t even answer “yes” to an event on facebook. We reply “maybe” so all options are open. I’ve been there, I know what it’s like, but that has to stop! You can’t answer maybe everytime, there are times in life when you simply HAVE to commit and give a loud and clear “YES” or “NO”. Or else you’ll be just like a leaf in the wind, with no ground beneath you to help you be steady when times get tough. I hope when you want to enter a relationship now it’s because what you can give to it, not because what you can take from it. It’s better to give than to receive..
Commitment requires, agreement, sacrifices and love from both sides. The more of yourself you give, the more you open up, the more you sacrifice for the other person, the better the relationship. (this must go beyond feelings) Of course, that requires that the other person also does it, no point in doing everything for a person who doesn’t want to love you back, but that is the whole point of making the commitment in the first place, to keep you both accountable.
So when your girlfriend asks you now if you love her.. You should know by now what to answer.